Dr. Seth Meyers, Clinical Psychologist

Dr. Seth Meyers, Clinical Psychologist

Thursday, July 16, 2015

Daily Mental Health Tip

Remember that self-esteem comes from engaging in positive behaviors that make you feel better. What did you today that was healthful and made you feel good about yourself? Exercise? Eat a bunch of healthy foods? Take a relaxing bath or meditate for a few minutes? Practice good self-care on a daily basis and you will quickly see how your mood and self-esteem rises significantly!

Wednesday, July 8, 2015

FRIENDSHIP: 7 Triggers for Envy Between Friends


Envy is an ugly - but totally human - cluster of feelings. We all feel envy as much we'd like to believe we're above it. Check out my new article for Psychology Today here about the seven most common triggers for envy between friends!

Sunday, June 21, 2015

PARENTING: Does Your Teenager Use a Fake ID?


New research shows just how common it is for youth today to obtain a fake ID which can be used to purchase alcohol or enter establishments where alcohol is served. Arria and colleagues found that 66% of their youth sample had used a fake ID, and that’s a scary number. In addition, the researchers show that using a fake ID is also correlated with a higher likelihood of alcohol use disorders later in life.

What to Do: If you’re a parent of a youth, specifically ask your child if he or she has ever used a fake ID (and we know what they’ll say), and then explain some of the dangers of using one illegally. Specifically, do a little research online; read about teens who have recently been arrested; and show your child those articles online so that you can discuss them together. Say, “If, by some chance, you ever got arrested, what would that mean for your life?” Give them some prompts: “That would mean everyone at school might find out; you wouldn’t get to take that trip you’ve been wanting to go on; and you might not get into that college you’ve had your eye on.” Kids need specifics; otherwise, they will tune you out!

Check out the research here: http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2013/10/131017173636.htm.

HAPPY FATHER'S DAY!


To all the dads out there who work so hard to make their kids feel protected and loved, Happy Father's Day!

Saturday, June 6, 2015

RELATIONSHIPS: When Your Partner Over-Flirts with Others

When you’re in a relationship, a little flirting is arguably healthy and normal. Those who say one should never flirt with someone else most likely unconsciously flirt (at least a little) when their partner is not present. We’re only human and our sexuality lives on, regardless of whether you are in a relationship or not.



What do you do, however, when you witness your partner flirting with someone else and you feel like it goes a step too far? What if it lasts a little too long or gets a little touchy for your liking?



What you do is address it. You check the behavior in the moment so that you clearly communicate that you don’t want the behavior to happen again. Rather than grab your partner’s arm and jerk him or her out of the conversation with the other guilty party, take a break and sit the conversation out for a few minutes. When you can be sure that you’ve regained composure and won’t cause more drama, ask your partner to talk with you alone for a minute.



When you address it, don’t make huge generalizations or call your partner names. Simply express what you observed and tell your partner how it made you feel. It always helps to add something like “maybe I’m just being extra-sensitive, but…” This technique is helpful because it makes your partner feel less attacked.



Finally, simply ask your partner that he or she not do it again. Don’t hold a grudge or let resentment settle in unless this behavior has become a pattern. Accept that we’re all human, that we all make mistakes, and that intimacy often increases in relationships when you work your way through problems together.

Saturday, May 23, 2015

THE WEEK: Hot Psychology Topics in the News


What a week it has been in the news! On Wednesday, I was on the Nancy Grace show when we covered the horrific Stavopoulos "D.C. Mansion Murder." This tragedy involved the brutal deaths of three adults and a 10-year old child who was tortured and then burned. The suspect is now in custody but there is no way to undo that kind of horror. What possesses someone to commit such horror? Was this individual a sociopath? Was this individual horribly abused as a child? I imagine that we will continue to learn more details about this case in the coming weeks. My heart goes out to the family of Veracilia Figueroa and to the remaining Stavopoulos daughters who were away at boarding school at the time.

Josh Duggar also made major headlines this week as he admitted to sexually molesting girls. The news sent shock waves to the world: Is this the man who moralistically condemned gays? I sent the following tweet on the subject: Are those who preach the loudest the ones hiding the darkest secrets? May we all learn to develop more of a live-and-let-live attitude.

Following the news on a day to day basis can be fascinating at times. What I appreciate most about the news is the way that it can trigger conversation and debate about very important issues. Let's see what happens next week...