Saturday, March 1, 2014
I was interviewed for a new story about how men often share more emotionally online than they do in person. It's an interesting article and you can check it out here: http://healthland.time.com/2014/02/24/why-men-hide-their-feelings-behind-social-media/#comments.
If you are going to give a long distance relationship a shot, try using the following techniques to ensure that your relationship has a decent chance at lasting.
Tip # 1: Tell your partner what your long-term goal is for the relationship, and ask him or her to share the same. Marriage? Living together? Living in the same city? Be clear from the beginning.
Tip # 2: Have a “Fears Discussion.” Tell your partner “I’m kind of afraid if we live apart for too long that you might…or that I might…” Again, ask your partner to share his or her fears. This is how intimacy develops.
Tip # 3: Set fixed times to communicate on the phone.
Tip # 4: Arrange a visiting schedule that will allow you to see each other regularly and stick to this schedule.
Tip # 5: Be honest if you start feeling disconnected from your partner, and ask your partner to share the same feelings if he or she has the same feelings – at that point or ever!
Again, these relationships aren’t easy, but nobody said that true love is a walk in the park. Arm yourself with good coping skills and you will be better off in the end - in your long distance relationship, as well as all of your other relationships in life.
PLUS: Check out my book, Dr. Seth's Love Prescription which shows you how to stop repeating bad patterns in your romantic relationships. I shed light on the four patterns that get repeated the most: saving wounded souls; focusing too much on a specific, physical type; fear of intimacy and denial; and getting involved with people who are physically, verbally, or psychologically abusive.
Friday, February 14, 2014
I was recently interviewed by the Daily News about Johnny Depp's new relationship with a woman more than 20 years younger than Depp. Wow, good luck with that, Mr. Depp. Major age differences rarely work out, but perhaps your relationship will be a lucky exception!
Full article from the Daily News here: http://www.nydailynews.com/life-style/amber-heard-engaged-johnny-depp-watch-article-1.1598222.
Tuesday, February 11, 2014
I was interviewed for a new article about sex and its many perils: http://thestir.cafemom.com/love_sex/168169/im_a_born_again_virgin.
Monday, February 10, 2014
I've been dating a guy for almost a year now, but he seems to be hesitating when it comes to making ourselves exclusive and getting more serious. How can you tell if a guy is just being cautious, as opposed to showing hesitation about me?
New York City
Dr. Seth: Caution should be used by man or woman in the first 3-6 months of dating, but then - if the person truly wants a relationship and doesn't have significant intimacy issues - the individual should settle in and fully commit. If it doesn't happen by 6 months or so, that's not healthy caution; that's hesitation or resistance to developing a real relationship.