Dr. Seth Meyers, Clinical Psychologist

Dr. Seth Meyers, Clinical Psychologist

Friday, October 2, 2015

Umpqua Community College Shooting: The School Shooting Epidemic Continues

Yesterday another college campus was under siege from a school shooter. As of the most recent reports, nine people were killed and others were injured. According to a news report, all the firearms the shooter had were obtained legally.

I wonder what motivated the shooter's grievance against Christians, as it appears that he was targeting these specific students. I also whether he had ever had any contact with the mental health system. Had a threat management team ever had a previous reason to meet with him?

My prayers go out to everyone affected in this tragedy. Let's hope that we figure out how to better keep our campuses safe.

Monday, September 14, 2015

PARENTING: 6 Signs You May Be a Narcissistic Parent

My new article for Psychology Today is about narcissistic parents. I give six specific signs of narcissistic parenting. What's interesting is that even in the rare event that a narcissist would be so self-reflective, the narcissists reading the article would never see that they are guilty of any of the behaviors I discuss. That's narcissism for you! I'm sending love and empathy to all the children of narcissistic parents.

Check out the full article here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/insight-is-2020/201509/6-signs-you-may-be-narcissistic-parent.

Feel free to check out my book Overcome Relationship Repetition Syndrome and Find the Love You Deserve here: http://www.amazon.com/Dr-Seths-Love-Prescription-Relationship-ebook/dp/B004DI7FIK/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1442260852&sr=8-1&keywords=dr.+seth.

Monday, August 31, 2015

Spotlight on Amazing Facilities: Hilltop's Life Adjustment Program

This past weekend I attended the special family weekend at Hilltop's Life Adjustment Program, a residential treatment facility for survivors of traumatic brain injuries in Grand Junction, Colorado. The staff went over the top in preparing for the event for the residents and their families: barbecues and brunches, activities for kids, and a band and dancing under the stars on Saturday evening. Our dear Barbara, a true music lover, managed to climb out of her wheelchair with the help of a few family members and dance a bit herself.

The dedication of the beloved staff was inspiring. It made me think of how some professions benefit from astonishing salaries - say, bankers and hedge funders, or attorneys winning major cases - while scores of professionals across the country do the most important work of all but don't reap a similar financial benefit. What's interesting is that many professionals in the helping professions aren't so money-motivated and actually feel motivated by a tremendous sense of purpose: helping others. Hats off to the devoted men and women who care for these deserving survivors!

Sunday, August 16, 2015

DR. SETH'S BOOKSHELF: All Fall Down by Jennifer Weiner

I have to be honest: It was a struggle to finish this book. I had never read anything by Weiner before and figured I would give one of her books a try. I won't be reading another one of her books. All Fall Down chronicles the journey into pill addiction for main character Allison, a character who was superficially drawn. Weiner never let us understand what really drove this woman psychologically to addiction, and who she was before her addiction. 
There are so many good books about addiction. I actually think a good memoir by an addict is much more interesting than a novel about an addict, and I'm not sure that a non-addict - like Weiner - can write addiction as well as someone who lives the experience.

I find that Weiner writes in an overly sentimental style, and her real-life fascination (and live-tweeting) of the show The Bachelor suggests that she is drawn to social conventions more than she would like to believe. After all, she describes herself as a feminist, but I'm not sure that you can be a feminist and follow The Bachelor. I could be wrong, though, because I've certainly been wrong before. 

One bit of praise I have to acknowledge is Weiner's amazing vocabulary and her dexterous application of uncommon uses of words. I found myself thinking, Wow, this woman really earned her Princeton education!

Monday, August 10, 2015

On Love: Can You Truly Love Two Romantic Partners at the Same Time?

A true sociopath can love two romantic partners at the same time, but most sociopaths will be lying, manipulating and hiding one of those partners from the other. Can your average person love two people at the same time? Think about how most people find it difficult to date more than one person at a time! Most of us couldn't - or wouldn't - love two people at the very same time.

I find that some perfectly good (but escapist) people have gotten themselves into situations where they love different people for fairly predictable reasons, among them: his wife has been sick and he fell in love with someone else; she felt unappreciated by her husband and had an affair with someone from work; and he was struggling with a mid-life crisis and fell in love with a younger woman to get his groove back.

Think about your own life for a moment. Could you love two people at the same time?

Sunday, August 9, 2015

88% of Adults Are Sexting?

A new study suggests that it's far more than hormonal teens and young adults who are sending sexual texts or photos. Why do people sext? Because being sexual is a part of being human, and everyone can be impulsive - say, shoot off a sexual text - from time to time. Most importantly, I urge girls and young women to avoid sending sexts or sexual pictures because boys and men often end up showing the sexts or pics to their friends or, worse, the entire internet.

Check out the article here: http://cnn.it/1KWB2IC.