Wednesday, April 8, 2015
My new article for Psychology Today takes a look at integrity and describes seven behaviors that show bona fide integrity in everyday life. Sadly, a few of these behaviors are dreadfully rare - see my reference to physicians. My full article can be read here: http://bit.ly/1NUyqdz.
Check out my new article for eHarmony about the types of emotional baggage that can destroy a relationship. While everyone has some issues that make them imperfect, certain types of baggage can mark starting - and sustaining - a relationship next to impossible. Check out the article and see if you agree!
Full article here: http://bit.ly/1CxGmLi.
Sunday, March 22, 2015
If you think about some of the good sex you’ve had, you were probably feeling extremely emotional at the time. For some people, good sex involves feeling deeply in love, while for others, it involves feeling wild, naughty, or even connecting with darker emotions surrounding dominance or submission fantasies. Regardless of which end of that spectrum your good sex would fall on, Deepak is right that all of these emotions signify emotional freedom. In other words, there is no one fixed way to have sex, so the consenting partners have a blank slate onto which they can create whatever they want. After a long week at work, the last thing anyone needs is one more experience in which they feel bored or unstimulated.
What Deepak says about bad sex is quite true, as well. If you think about some of the bad sex you’ve had, it’s probably because you were feeling emotionally disconnected, bored, or preoccupied. In other words, having an unsatisfying sexual experience suggests that you even though you were having sex, it’s not something that you truly wanted to do – it’s more like going through the motions.
In my practice with clients, I always encourage them to take their emotional temperature at the start of a sexual interaction. If you feel a little off that day and don’t really want to connect in that way with your partner, your date, whomever –make the conscious choice to not have sex.
Breakups are awful, plain and simple. But as long you are strategic about what you do after the breakup, moving on can be a lot easier. Many strategies that work are actually counter-intuitive. Check out my full article for eHarmony, where I am one of their resident relationship experts. I hope you find the article helpful!
Full article: http://bit.ly/19Jqlff.
Friday, March 13, 2015
I was proud to be on Inside Edition today condemning the awful racist comments by a Univision TV host, comparing her appearance to a character from the Planet of the Apes film. He was fired after making the comments. More than ever, our society is taking a harsher stance against social intolerance.
Wednesday, March 11, 2015
Check out Nancy Grace on HLN tonight when I'll be discussing the case of a woman who shot multiple shots from her rifle at the television when she felt frustrated that her kids were watching an inappropriate TV program. If you think I might have strong feelings on the subject, you're right. Watch Nancy and I go head to head this evening!